A solitary fisherman’s home keeps watch on quiet Placentia Bay in Newfoundland, Canada, 1974.Photograph by Sam Abell, National Geographic Creative
Study after study after study shows that spanking children causes anger, aggression, decreased impulse control, anxiety, lower thresholds for frustration etc etc
You didn’t “turn out just fine” because you were smacked, you turned out “just fine” IN SPITE of it.
I also wouldn’t call someone who thinks violence against children is okay “just fine” but.. Y’know.
Why yes, you are correct im-the-asshole-that. I really really hate boomers constantly shitting on my generation.
At my job, I once had to take a training course called “Dealing with Difficult People.” And during that course, for no apparent reason, the instructor started off on a rant about millenials which quickly devolved into the entire room of boomers bitching about my generation. At one point, one lady called us “animals.”
When I raised my hand to point out that this was disrespectful, I was told “it’s okay, you’re not like them.” At which point I snapped and asked HOW. My experiences are their experiences. You know what we saw when we grew up? We saw a housing market collapse. We saw the beginning of a war on terror so vaguely defined as to have no visible end. We saw an entire generation stick their fingers in their ears and shout “GLOBAL WARMING ISN’T REAL AND IF IT IS IT’S A PROBLEM FOR THE NEXT GENERATION.”
We’ve been told that “you better go to college if you want a good job” only to graduate to find that there are no jobs available because the work force ISN’T RETIRING. We’ve seen the cost of higher education increase OVER 1,000% in the last four decades. A college credit that cost an day’s minimum wage in the 70’s costs us 60 days of work. Those of us who graduate with student loans are told that if we couldn’t afford it we shouldn’t have gone. Those who don’t go are told that we can’t expect a job without a college degree.
We’ve grown up in a world where the acceptance rate at Harvard is higher than the acceptance rate at a new Walmart. We’ve been told that you were grateful for you job flipping burgers, but you were paid the equivalent of $14-$15 an hour to do so. We’ve had employers cut our work week to 39 hours to get out of paying for our healthcare.
I’ve worked in fast food and you want to know a secret? I have never had a problem with teenagers. If they get rowdy or messy they mean no harm. In fact, most of them will stop if you tell them. All they want is a fucking milkshake and a corner to themselves The customers that cause the most problems? They’re middle aged. I had a customer berate me, cuss at me, and call me stupid and ask if I failed math when I told him he hadn’t given me enough money to pay his check. When he finally accepted he was in the wrong, he told me I shouldn’t have made such a big deal out of it because it was “bad customer service” even though any shortage comes out of my paycheck. That sense of entitlement is something I rarely see in millenials.
We’re told in legitimate publications, in TIME MAGAZINE, just how little you think of our generation, how little you RESPECT us and yet you ask for our unquestioning devotion. Well guess what, IT DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT. You’ve ruined our economy, our housing market, our job market, our environment, and our climate. You continually mock us, demonize us, and leave us to clean up your messes.
RESPECT IS EARNED, and you have done nothing to earn it. And it’s ironic that I have to have this discussion here because at this moment you are the difficult people I am having to deal with.
I was then told I was overly confrontational and would apparently benefit from being sweeter when being called an animal (I may have continued loudly talking over the “instructor” when she tried to cut me off). But the other sole millenial and I shared a loving glance across the room and absolutely lambasted this instructor in the evals and she’s never been invited back to teach that course, so it’s all okay.
Hello Earth. We have a terrible decision to make. An innocent life versus the future of all mankind.
I want hair as black as my soul but I also want hair like Amy Pond’s hair but I also want hair the color of sunlight but I also want to be brunette but I also want streaks of blue through my normal shade of brown but I also want ringlets but I also want straight hair but I also want waves but I also want tightly coiled frizzy hair but I also want it down to my waist but I also want a pixie cut do you see my dilemma.
"I do it for me"
Oh really? You know, I do wonder how likely it would have been for you to have begun shaving off natural body hair if you hadn’t been informed from day one that natural hair on women is “gross” and that this was the beauty standard to aspire to.
The “I do it for me” choice-y feminism thing is bogus and please dear everything, apply critical thinking as to why it is we do the things we do.
Why are you shaming people for shaving though, who cares? It’s their body!!!!
Y’know, a while ago one of my buddies admitted to me that he wished he could get away with shaving his armpits. He just didn’t like the hair- he, personally, would have preferred having the option to shave without incurring judgement, just like so many people desire having the option to not shave without incurring judgement.
Yeah, it is something we as a society have developed as a gendered social norm, but that does not mean that people cannot have a personal preference one way or another.
That does not give you the right to invalidate those preferences.
This logic is a bit like saying somebody doesn’t want to eat something they think tastes gross just because they’ve been socialized to believe it tastes gross. Maybe that’s the case. Maybe it’s not. Regardless, they think it’s gross, and you’re not going to win any points by bullying them into eating it. Put the option out there- say, “hey, maybe you just think this is gross because you’ve always been told it was gross.” Don’t be aggressive. They are the only ones who can choose to change or not change their perceptions of that thing, and telling them that their existing feelings towards it are wrong and bad and shameful isn’t going to make anybody want to listen to you.
The fact of the matter about this sort of thing is this: we live in a world where these ideas and attitudes already exist, people have personal preferences about them, and they’re entitled to that, man.
Because hey, guess what: there really are people who want to do these things for themselves.
im starting to see those “dont use ouija boards for fun they are very dangerous!!!!!!!” posts and id like to ask everyone who reblogs them what its like to be a fucking nerd
this is exactly the kind of post a ghost would make to trick you into using a ouija board. look out kids, the spoops are gettin crafty.
i heard someone whistling the harry potter theme while walking through university today
Yes, I’ve pet wild birds before (it had broken its wing and my brother and I tried to help it) and a few mice (which was probably a bad idea considering they’re not the cleanest). And NYC is great! It’s kind of cold today (yesterday was like 40 degrees) and I have a midterm, but I still love the city. I’ve been here for a little more than two months now and haven’t gotten tired of it! But there’s still a lot more I need to see and do. I’m planning on going to Central Park next weekend, which will be fun.
Also, a story kind of related to both your questions - here in NYC the squirrels in the parks are completely fearless because they have to deal with so many people, so it’s easy to pet them. I was sitting on a bench in the park near my building the other day and one of them sat next to me and sniffed my boot. If you have food, they’ll eat it right out of your hand and climb all over you! There’s also a homeless pigeon guy in Washington Square Park (in lower Manhattan) who lives around the park and knows all the pigeons by name because he recognizes their different markings and spends a lot of time with them. He’ll stand in the middle of the square and yell out “COME ON, GUYS!” and about two hundred pigeons will flock to him and land on him because they know he has food for them. It’s pretty entertaining. There are lots of interesting people here.
Located in deep in the Guilin mountains, shrouded in mist and frequented by dragons that live in the multitude of winding rivers, the students of the Chinese Institute of Magic don their colourful wizarding garb every September 1st for their return to school whereupon they are treated to spectacular opening festivities involving, but not limited to: choreographed martial arts performances from their combat professors, an assortment of acrobatic wonders, and “Mystery Mooncakes” specially made for the mid-autumn festival.
#they would not have had four houses; four is such an unlucky number in chinese numerology that there would never be four of anything.
#They also wouldn’t have used a tortoise wtf tortoises are shit in chinese mythology
#There would probably be like 8 houses because hello chinese population is enormous there would probably be tons more witches and wizards just by dint of percentages.
#Also I refuse to believe that chinese witches and wizards are like as massively in hiding as everybody else; I mean just look at traditional chinese medicine. You wanna talk eye of newt let’s talk about the various medicinal uses of fucking freeze dried sea cucumbers wtf why is that always the biggest jar at your grandma’s apothecary.
#…Because that’s goddamn right chinese fucking muggles go to the goddamn apothecary wtf you think you’re special, white leghorn wizards
#also fuck quidditch and broomsticks i bet they play games on motherfucking dragons
#can you imagine HOW MUCH BETTER DUELING WOULD BE WITH MARTIAL ARTS
#Defense against the dark martial arts tho
#I bet the sorting ceremony is much more involved and includes astrology charts and chi and shit like that it’s like matchmaking only way more crucial
#I bet muggles fucking love magic
#I bet they gotta be careful and shit at orphanages making sure no accidental Tom Riddle shit happens and like the next dark lord gets adopted by a pair of white gay guys from Santa Monica because that would be hella awkward whoopsies
*hugs* I hope you’re having a good October (and that you have a great Halloween next week)!
Graduated high school. | Kissed someone. | Collected something really stupid.| Smoked a cigarette. | Got so drunk you passed out. | Rode every ride at an amusement park.| Gone to a rock concert. | Helped someone.| Gone fishing. | Watched four movies in one night. | Gone long periods of time without sleep. | Lied to someone.| Snorted cocaine. | Failed a class. | Smoked weed.| Dealt drugs. | Been in a car accident. | Been in a tornado. | Been to a funeral. | Burned yourself.| Ran a marathon. | Cried yourself to sleep. | Spent over $200 in one day. | Flown on a plane.| Cheated on someone. | Been cheated on. | W ritten a 10 page letter. | Gone skiing. | Been sailing. | Have a best friend. | Lost someone you loved. | Shoplifted something.| Been to jail. | Dangerously close to being in jail. | Skipped school. | Had detention. | Got in trouble for something you didn’t do.| Stolen books from the library. | Gone to a different country.| Dropped out of school. | Watched the “Harry Potter” movies. | Had an online diary. | Had a yard sale. | Had a lemonade stand. | Actually made money at the lemonade stand. | Been in a school play.| Been fired from a job. | Swam with dolphins. | Taken a lie detector test. | Voted for someone on a reality TV show. | Written poetry. | Read more than 20 books a year.| Gone to Europe. | Loved someone you shouldn’t have. | Used a coloring book over age 12. | Had surgery. | Had stitches. | Taken a taxi. | Seen the Washington Monument. | Had more than 5 IM’s/online conversations going at once.| Overdosed. | Been in a fist fight. | Gone surfing in California. | Had a hamster/guinea pig. | Pet a wild animal. | Used a credit card. | Did “spirit day” at school. | Dyed your hair.| Got a tattoo. | Got straight A’s. | Been on the Honor Roll.| Know someone with HIV or AIDS. | Made out with someone. | Played on a sports team. | Snuck out of the house. | Swore at a teacher.| Gone laser tagging. | Had a romantic relationship .| Been on the TV. | French braided. | Skinny-dipped. | Driven a car. | Performed in front of an audience.| Gone bungee-jumping. | Been to Mexico. | Crashed a car. | Sky dived. | Been kissed in the rain. | Made an 11:11 wish. | Drank alcohol.| Forwarded a chain letter. | Made a mistake.
plot twist: if you want to know the story behind any of these, message me and i’ll tell